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Dear GhanaWeb,
My mother keeps saying she wishes she had aborted me when she got pregnant. I used to think she was joking, but every time I do something, she becomes extremely bitter and tells me she regrets having me, that her life has been miserable ever since she kept my pregnancy.
The same things my siblings do, if I do them, she reacts with extreme bitterness. I am the second child, with an older sister and two younger brothers.
There was a time when my sister, one of my younger brothers, and I went out and returned home late. Although she was angry at all of us, she let them in while insisting that I sleep outside. I had to spend the night on a carpenter’s table outside the house until morning.
She gets hurt by the smallest things I do but tolerates far worse from my siblings. All of them attended the boarding schools of their choice, but when it was my turn, my mother said she didn’t have money, so I had to attend a day school.
I am now sponsoring myself through university, working alongside my studies. Meanwhile, my older sister has completed university, and my younger siblings are currently there, fully supported by my mother.
Our father is late, but he left enough to take care of all of us, yet my mother doesn’t give me anything. Even if I eat her leftover food without asking, she complains, while my siblings freely eat anything in the house without permission.
I don’t understand why my biological mother treats me this way and hates me so much. I can’t even talk to her about the same things my siblings discuss with her.
When we are home alone, she stays in her room all day and avoids me. But when my siblings are around, she is always with them.
She never sends me on important errands, only house chores. If she needs help with something academic or even something as simple as fixing something on her phone, she never asks me.
She will wait indefinitely until one of my siblings does it. It feels like she is hiding everything from me. Important family matters, I only hear about them from our last born because he is close to me.
Meanwhile, I am academically smarter than all my siblings.
Why doesn’t she like me? I wish I had answers to all the questions I ask myself. I have been going through a lot, and I’ve never been a happy person since childhood.
Has anyone else experienced this trauma? How did you handle it?
FG/MA
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