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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m in a difficult situation and really need some advice. I was dating a guy who got me pregnant six months into our relationship.
When I told him, his parents pressured him to deny the pregnancy, and then they sent him abroad to the United States, leaving me to deal with everything alone.
Three months later, I met a guy who accepted me, even though I was pregnant with someone else’s child. He supported me through everything, from the pregnancy to the birth, and continued to be there for me.
After I gave birth, he enrolled me in a training centre and paid for everything. We have now been together for five years, and my whole family knows him. He plans to propose in three months.
The problem now is that my baby daddy is back. He apologised for everything and says he wants to take me back, including taking me to the U.S. if I still love him.
I do still have feelings for him, but I’m torn because I don’t want to hurt the man who has been there for me all these years.
This man has supported me in ways I can never fully repay. He got me a good job, paid for my child’s school fees, and has been taking care of everything. We were even planning to get married this year. But now that my baby daddy is back, I’m confused about what to do.
How do I explain to the man who’s been supporting me that I’m no longer in love with him? He’s been a true gem, sticking by me through everything.
He doesn’t deserve to be hurt, and I feel guilty for even considering leaving him. I haven’t told either of them about the other yet, and I know I need to figure out how to handle this without causing unnecessary pain.
My baby daddy said he will come and see my parents next week, and whatever they ask for in terms of compensation, he’s willing to pay.
After that, he wants us to move forward. But I’m just so worried about the other guy. He’s been there for me and my child for years, and I don’t know how to tell him it’s over without breaking his heart.
What should I do? How can I let him down gently, considering everything he has done for me and my child? I feel terrible and really don’t know how to handle this.
Please help.
FG/EB
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