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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’ve been in a relationship with this woman for four years. I loved her deeply and genuinely. I believed she was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
During this time, I supported her in many ways. I paid her university fees, provided extra money for her to start a business, and helped support her family financially.
Due to my work as a businessman, I travel a lot, and I couldn’t always be around to provide her with everything she wanted. But I trusted that if she were working on her own business, she would be able to manage her own needs. However, a few months after I gave her money for her business, she told me that she had used it for her mother’s medication, leaving her without any funds.
I didn’t question her, as I know her parents are struggling, and I’ve been supporting them as well.
I was even planning to propose to her, but an emergency work meeting took me out of town.
After I returned, I rented an apartment for her parents and paid the rent for two years, which expires in November this year.
I also provided weekly allowances for her and continued supporting her and her family.
But despite all this, she didn’t love me the way I loved her. She became pregnant by another man, not once, but twice.
If I had been around more, I know she would have tried to pin the pregnancies on me.
Thankfully, my work travels kept me away for months at a time.
When she found herself pregnant by this other man, she chose to abort both pregnancies to hide the truth from me. I recently bought her a new phone and gave her old one to one of my workers.
When I went to erase her old phone’s data, I found messages between her and the man she had been involved with.
In these messages, she even said to him, “You know if I keep this baby, and my boyfriend finds out, that’s the end of me, right?”
She didn’t just cheat on me, she also made decisions that could affect my future and my ability to have children.
I feel betrayed in every way. I’ve never asked anyone to get an abortion, and I never will, so I feel like I deserve to be with someone who hasn’t done this to their body.
Seeing all this has broken me. I feel heartbroken and deeply disappointed. As a result, I’ve decided to stop all financial assistance to her. I’ve also asked her parents to move out of the apartment before the rent expires.
As for her, I’ve moved her out and taken back the items I bought for her. While I’ve given her parents some time to figure things out, I’m still angry at the way things have unfolded.
They’ve asked for some more time until the rent expires, but honestly, I feel like I want them to feel some of the pain their daughter caused me
Despite having sympathy for them, part of me wants to retaliate, to make them feel the hurt I’ve been through.
Am I handling this the right way? What should I do next?
FG/EB
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