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Dear GhanaWeb,
My mother was apparently my dad’s side chick who got pregnant for him.
She didn’t know he was married because they lived in different cities, and he never mentioned that to her.
My dad came to Kumasi for business, met my mum, and they started a relationship.
He treated her well, and according to her, he would often go to Accra for business. She never suspected he had a wife and two children.
When my mum got pregnant, he bought her a house.
He even visited her family to do an introduction. Somehow, his wife found out.
She came to where my mum was staying and kicked her out with me as a baby. Instead of stepping in, my dad just watched my mum lose everything.
When my mum’s family reached out to him for support, he said he couldn’t leave his family because his wife had been with him through thick and thin. My mum was left alone.
When I was in university, I decided to look for him despite everything he had done. I was excited to meet him, but the reception wasn’t what I expected.
I eventually stopped texting him, but he still watches everything I post on social media. The excitement I had for wanting to know him faded away.
He’s been keeping track of my progress online, and when I posted about getting promoted at work and the celebratory dinner with my colleagues, he called the next day asking me to help get a job for his youngest daughter.
I sent her the company email so she could send her CV and go through the normal recruitment process.
She wasn’t qualified, so they didn’t hire her. My dad called me afterward, asking me to intervene on her behalf. I refused, and he got angry, calling me selfish like my mother.
I lost it, insulted him, and told him never to contact me again.
I then told my mum everything. She also called him and warned him to stay away from me.
This morning, I received another call from him. He said he wasn’t feeling well, went to the hospital, and was diagnosed with cancer.
He said he had been battling it for a while and wanted to know if I could help him. I just sighed and hung up.
After abandoning my mother and me, now he wants help from me?
My mum begged me to forgive him, but I find it hard. I honestly wouldn’t feel any sadness if I heard that he passed away, and that’s how much he disgusts me.
My mum sacrificed so much to raise me on her own, and I don’t want her to feel like I’m disrespecting her.
She asked me to help my dad the little way I can but I honestly don’t want to have anything to do with him.
What should I do now? Should I help him or I should abandon him like how he did to my mother and I?
FG/EB
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