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Dear GhanaWeb,
Three years ago, my friend conducted a DNA test on all of his children and found out the first child wasn’t his. This led to him divorcing his partner of seventeen years of marriage.
We married the same year, and so my marriage is twenty years old now. After my friend’s encounter, I began thinking about my marriage; what if my kids were not mine?
I observed my children instead of conducting a DNA test because my wife threatened to divorce me if I conducted a DNA test and found out the kids were all mine. She sounded so convincing, so I decided not to bring any confusion into my home due to that friend’s encounter. For a while, I had it on my mind, but after about a year.
Late last year, I travelled to India for a medical check-up. In a conversation with my doctor, the issue of DNA popped up, and he said I could conduct DNA on my kids without my wife’s knowledge, so why do I even discuss it with her for us to argue? I thought of it as the best idea, so I gathered samples of their hair when I returned.
We have four children together, and I told my wife I was asked to return after a month for a check-up again. So, I returned to India a week ago to see my doctor. He conducted the test and unlike my friend, my case is worse. Can you believe that with the exception of our last baby boy, who is eleven years old, all the other children are not mine?
The child I thought was my first will turn twenty this year, and the second will also be eighteen this year. They are both studying in Canada, while the last two are in Ghana with us. I have a very happy and successful family. I trusted and loved my wife, and I wish the DNA test didn’t come out like this. I haven’t returned to Ghana yet; I haven’t contacted home or said anything about the test results to anyone yet. It’s so painful.
There’s no day this week that I haven’t cried. My life right now is a misery. I don’t know how to confront my wife about this. I don’t know how my entire family, friends, and society willwill see my family. My happy home is a wrecked one now, and I’m scared I might just hurt my wife if I see her face again. I haven’t been in this type of pain before.
How on earth is my last child, my first born and only child? I have equally apportioned everything I have to them. Is my wife trying to tell me that if I hadn’t conducted this test, I would die without knowing the truth? What should I do now? I don’t want to do anything stupid that I will regret later. I need your advice.
FG/AE
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